It all seems somewhat harmless at the time, but the truth always comes out at some point! Nowadays, there’s seemingly a new dating term for every nuanced form of behavior. There's an "ease and lack of rules around dating," she says. These have become the regular dance steps—if you don’t think it’s going to work out, it’s just easier to ghost them because you don’t want to deal with it.An ex who pops up out of the blue, wanting to rekindle your little romantic fling when it suits them…only it’s been given an updated name for the festive season – so don’t be fooled!It could even be as simple as having a friend ghostwrite your dating profile to make you sound smarter and funnier than you actually are.
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If you’ve ever watched Charles Dickens’ A Christmas Carol, you’ll remember Ebenezer Scrooge’s business partner, Jacob Marley.
So marleying comes from the part of the film where Scrooge’s dead business partner, Marley, comes back as a ghost to tell Scrooge that since he died, his spirit didn’t actually pass onto the “next life”, but hung around as a sort of punishment because he was obsessed with business and completely neglected the people he cared about in his life. Well, it’s the exact same thing as when an old flame, or ex, no matter how recent, pops up out of nowhere and gets in contact, usually with an opening line something along the lines of “Hey how have you been?
"It’s heightened by the distance that we have because of online technology," says Winter, explaining that because there is so often a screen between you and the person you're communicating with, exchanges can feel less personal.
"A lot of our interactions and hookups aren’t that meaningful anymore, so when the relationship itself isn’t meaningful, our morals around how we interact with them are a lot more lax." GHOSTING First, ghosting—perhaps the most popular of the bunch—simply means disappearing without a trace.